Small things that matter

We almost made it! 2016 is just around the corner. Big promises await and this time we know that it is time for some major changes. We need to hit it big in 2016, this is the year when all dreams will come true. You can read it on Facebook, Instagram or in the new Nike commercial, come on, Just Do It.

We almost made it. Have we? Not really. Will we? that depends. Depends on what? It depends on all the small everyday things that you can easily do but that are just as easy not to do. It is rarely the big things and some superhero powers that will get you where you want to get in life. That is the biggest misconception and illusion out there. Trust me. For years I have been stuck in the same matrix really really believing in the illusion of big things and great undertakings in order to achieve success. Luckily I was introduced to the concept of the compound effect through my mentor and friend Darren Hardy publisher of Success Magazine. Small things that amount to big things if you do it daily and consistently over longer periods of time. I bought the tracking tool Living Your Best Year Ever and I started on the new journey. Before the new year I would start with mapping the things I was most grateful for regarding the year that has passed. I would look at areas of improvement and designed specific written goals in all areas of life such as, mental, business, physically, spiritually, lifestyle, financial, family and relationships. After designing my goals I would create an action plan and decide the things I am prepare to sacrifice in order to achieve my goals.

Later with the help of this amazing tool I decided what to do every day, week, month and year. Everyday I focused mostly on the activities that would create most leverage and happiness in my life. At the end of every week I would track my progress to see how everything was really going. This took away the power of blaming others or circumstances for my failure. It was clear, everything was 100 procent my responsibility now.

I tracked the number of business meetings and how many prospects I contacted every week, how many push-ups I did, how many weekly date nights I had with my wife Michélle, the number of meditation minutes, how many pages I read every day, and how many times a week I revised my written goals. The magic of all this, is that I only did small things every day that didn’t take hardly any time to do. 10 pages of a great book a day, 20 push-ups in the morning, 3 minutes of meditation every day, one date night a week, and so on. I have been applying the compound effect for 4 years now, and I am heading into my fifth year during 2016. The effect it has had in my life is just amazing. People comment from time to time and say that I have some special powers, luck or I was just born ambitious. They are so wrong. The only thing I have done different is all the small things that are easy to do but just as easy not to do. I am now surrounded by inspiring friends, doing what I love, traveling the world every year, and helping others do the same. The best part is that positive things keep compounding as I continue to apply the compound effect in all areas of my life.

This year 2015 I have had:

263 business meetings, I contacted 359 new prospects and created new relationships, had 56 date nights, I meditated 193 times and did 7020 push-ups. Last year I read 28 books just by reading 10 pages a day.

I strongly recommend that you start applying the compound effect in your life and make 2016 to Your Best Year Ever. There is no magic to it. Trust me

Claudiu The Compound Effect

Here is the link to order the goal setting and tracking tool if you wish to do that.

https://store.success.com/journal-only-living-your-best-year-ever-by-darren-hardy.html

Let’s kick some ass in 2016!

Happy New Year

Claudiu Moldovan
Positive Change Agent
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“Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better “

October 26

October 26 at 15.50 a clock. This day and time will forever hold the strongest feelings inside of me. This is when you decided to move on and take the next step. I remembered feeling relief and actually smiling when I realized that no more pain, frustration and heart-ache will ever be able to affect you. You were a warrior all the way and you never seized to inspire me not even in the end.

mire cluj

If everything around us is build out of energies and different frequencies than maybe, just maybe you are able to read this wherever you are right now. Know that I love you more than ever, know that every day I keep lighting a candle for you which is the symbol of light and hope. Know that I will never forget nor stop to do everything I can to make you proud so your sacrifice won’t be in vain. A promise is a promise, only you and me know what that promise was, and even though I often fall, I get up again and keep trying just like you showed me. Happy Birthday my beautiful and strong mother Mire I will always forever keep you in my heart until my mission is completed and we can meet again.

Your only son,

Claudiu

”Det du ger får du alltid behålla, det du låter bli att ge är för alltid borta”

Lena & Claudiu

Tiden läker alla sår brukar man höra. Jag tror inte på det riktigt. Tiden kan inte läka vissa sår speciellt om det inte längre finns några sår att läka. Däremot så tror jag starkt på att oavsett hur lång tid som har gått så finns det vissa händelser, ögonblick och personer som lämnar ett avtryck och lever vidare trots allt. Ett eko som inte kan stoppas ens av tiden, en röst som vill göra sig hörd, som förr eller senare hittar rätt kanal för att nå ut och förmedla en berättelse så andra kan inspireras av och föra vidare det som är av betydelse.

När jag träffade dig Lena Petersson för första gången såg jag en gnista hos dig och en vilja att förändra det som andra sade att det var omöjligt att förändra. Du vågade dela med dig av dina drömmar och innersta önskningar och vi påbörjade en resa tillsammans mot något annat mer extraordinärt. Vem vill egentligen leva på ett vanligt sätt när livet är så skört och när man inte vet vad framtiden för med sig?

Jag kommer ihåg vår gemensamma resa till USA, och hur du klättrade upp på den högsta toppen av Grand Canyon där du ställde dig upp och knöt näven mot de cirkulerande svarta fåglarna som svävade över den rödfärgade avgrunden. I det ögonblicket var allting fullkomligt och medan solen smekte bergstopparna så badade du i stolthet och livsglädje.

Ingen visste då att livet skulle ta en ny vändning som skulle rubba allting på en sekund. Det tar nämligen inte mer än en sekund för att vinden skall vända och blåsa oss rakt in i ansiktet. Det tar inte mer en sekund för att man skall komma ihåg att allt som har en början måste ha ett slut. En sekund, en minut, en timme, en dag, en månad, ett år, en livstid eller en evighet, jag kan inte riktigt säga vilket.

När du fick din diagnos, när alla sade att det var kört så sade du nej. Du vägrade ge upp, du vägrade infinna dig i vad andra sade, du vägrade acceptera det normala till och med då när det var som svårast. Du gav allt du hade och mycket mer för att kämpa emot och kämpa för de du älskade in i det sista! Det som jag beundrar mest är att du gjorde det med ett leende på läpparna trots att du hade ont både i kropp och själ.

Vem vet? Det hade kanske gått annorlunda om inte flera kvalificerade läkare hade missat diagnosen i över 11 månader. Jag tror det hade gjort det men det är ingen som vet. Däremot så kan vi inte sitta tysta och låta bli att berätta om det som alldeles för ofta sker på våra sjukhus där vi skall känna oss säkra. Det som en gång var säkert har blivit osäkert. Något måste göras och något kommer att göras även om det kommer att ta tid.

Idag så blev vi bjudna till dina föräldrar på middag. Jag kisade med blicken och tittade runt i huset för att kanske se en glimt av dig och din energi någonstans. Jag har alltid trott att genom att kisa så får jag se saker som annars är osynliga. Jag fick höra livsberättelser som dina föräldrar Gun och Lennart delade med sig och vi hade en fantastisk tid under en perfekt svensk sommarkväll. Det kändes som en saga där allting var perfekt. Jag såg stoltheten i dina föräldrars ögon när de pratade om dig och vilken kämpe du var in i det sista! Trots att din pappa är så stark och har själv gått igenom så mycket så kunde jag fånga ett ögonblick i hans ögon då jag verkligen fattade hur mycket han saknar dig och hur oerhört mycket han älskar dig. Du skall veta att de visade mig brevet som din son Johan hade skrivit till dig. Det var så vackert och trots att du säkerligen redan känner till det, så vill jag gärna återge några rader här:

Hej världens bästa mamma!

Du är den finaste människan jag känner.

Jag ser verkligen upp till dig!

Hur stark du är. Hur du alltid vill allas bästa.

Johan din älskade son

Medan jag läste det så kom ihåg det brev som jag själv skrev till min älskade mamma för inte så länge sedan. Det brev som jag aldrig någonsin hade velat skriva men som jag blev tvungen att skriva ändå. Jag kom ihåg när allting förändrades och det finns inget någon kan säga eller göra för att göra det bättre.

Tiden läker alla sår. Det tror jag inte på. Däremot så tror jag på att oavsett hur lång tid som har gått så finns det vissa händelser, ögonblick och personer som lämnar ett avtryck och lever vidare trots allt. Ett eko som inte kan stoppas ens av tiden, en röst som vill göra sig hörd, som förr eller senare hittar rätt kanal för att nå ut och förmedla en berättelse så andra kan inspireras av och föra vidare det som är av betydelse.

Du har gjort avtryck och jag är tacksam att jag fick lära känna dig. En liten bit av dig kommer alltid att stanna kvar hos mig och en liten bit av mig kommer alltid att finnas hos dig. Det är bara så. I slutändan så handlar det att ge allt man bara kan under den tid man har, för det leder till minnen som man alltid får behålla. Minnen som lever vidare. Det man inte ger är för alltid borta. Du gav verkligen allt.

Claudiu Moldovan

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HOW TO PREDICT THE FUTURE WITHOUT A TIME MACHINE

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The last two years have been life changing for me. I discovered that time is limited and that the unthinkable can happen to everyone including myself. I was one of those people that use to think that really really bad stuff is something reserved for people that I don’t know, that lived in some parallel universe remote from my reality. Yes logically I realized that it could happen to everyone but emotionally I was not attached to the idea.

October 26 2013 at 15.50 it happened and it changed me at the core. The person I loved the most on this planet, the person who sacrificed everything in order to give me the best chances in life, who always supported and encouraged me to be all I can be, my mother Mirela moved on at the age of 55. She moved on on her birthday..I bought her a cake with one candle that I lit for her, making a wish for her because she was not able to do it herself. I strongly believed that she would be ok even in the final seconds, though everything else pointing in a different direction. So now I remember one key question that she asked me one sunny day when she was home from hospital for a couple of hours, and how she loved being home, and how much she hated the hospital. She said: can you please tell me why I worked so much in life? Having worked constantly from the age of 19 that was a very valid question asked at a very invalid time. That question still resonates with me every day and every night.

Many of the decisions we take in life or don’t are based on how much time we think we have left to live. If you are just a little bit like me you maybe thinking that you have all the time in the world to do that stuff you want later in life, maybe when you retire. You don’t like your job and would like to pursue your passions but now is not the right time. You maybe feel relevance and make good money where you are in life but don’t have the time to be with your family. But that is all right because you will have time later. You would like to travel the world but you can always do it later, and maybe you want to spend your days in a villa in Italy and enjoy the sun and food, but I mean you can always do it later. And so you keep on fooling yourself that time is endless. 

Now unless you have a time machine to be able to predict the future or go back in time to rearrange things and correct mistakes by making new decisions that thinking will eventually get you in a lot of trouble later on.

Create your desired future by starting today and focus on doing the things you really want and love right now, that way you can create and predict tomorrow even without a time machine and when you look back later on you will realize happily that you went for it and you have nothing to regret or correct.

7 REASONS WHY PEOPLE SETTLE IN LIFE

You heard it before. I don’t know what to do with my life, I don’t know what I like, let me take another university subject to find myself, nobody in my family has ever done something like this so why should I succeed? Even if I love doing this, how can I make any money on it? Dreaming is for people who have no connection with reality. In real life you don’t do what you love you do what you must..

Here are 7 reasons why people settle and by doing the opposite you can avoid the regret of not going for it later in life.

1. Lack of understanding in the power of imagination and dreaming

2. Lack of clearly defined goals that are written down

3. Lack of the right attitude as a direct effect of the input you allow in your brain every day

4. Lack of a self-analysis regarding the strengths you posses

5. Lack of research about how you can use these strengths to your advantage and design the lifestyle you really want

6. Lack of initiative to find people with your background and profile that are already where you want to be and ask the how they did it

7. Lack of courage to face your fears by taking the first step

Modern Leadership

long term business

Yesterday I had one of my leaders approach me before a seminar.

I really want to talk to you he said. He took my hand looked me in the eyes and said: Can you promise me one thing? What is that? I responded

When you reach the very top, can you promise not to leave the team behind and go somewhere else? can you promise that you will be here with us and continue to help us reach the top?

These moments represent everything I fight for, that is the best recognition that you have built leadership based on respect and not on fear.

A great leader will always put his team interest first and his own second.